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想像一個大爆炸，當你在三千英呎的高空時；想像機艙內佈滿黑煙，想像引擎發出喀啦、喀啦、喀啦、喀啦、喀啦的聲響，聽起來很可怕。那天我的位置很特別，我坐在1D，我是唯一可以和空服員說話的人，於是我立刻看著他們，他們說，「沒問題，我們可能撞上鳥了。」機長已經把機頭轉向，我們離目的地很近，已經可以看到曼哈頓了。兩分鐘後，三件事情同時發生：機長把飛機對齊哈德遜河，一般的航道可不是這樣。（笑聲）他關上引擎。想像坐在一架沒有聲音的飛機上。然後他說了幾個字，這是我聽過最不帶情緒的幾個字，他說，「即將迫降，小心衝擊。」我不用再問空服員什麼了。（笑聲）我可以在她眼神裡看到恐懼，人生結束了。
現在我想和你們分享那天我學到的三件事。在那一瞬間，一切都改變了。我們的人生目標清單，那些我們想做的事，我想到所有我想連絡卻沒有連絡的人，那些我想修補的圍牆，所有我想經歷卻沒有經歷的事。之後我回想那些事，我想到一句話，那就是，「我收藏的酒還不夠好。」因為如果酒已可飲用，也有分享對象，我就該把酒打開。我不想再把生命中的任何事延後，這種緊迫感、目標性已改變了我的生命。
那天我學到的第二件事是，當我們通過喬治華盛頓大橋時，並沒有過很久時間，我想，哇，我有一件真正後悔的事。我生活過得不錯，雖然我有人性的缺點，也犯了些錯，但我試著把每件事做得更好。但因為個性，我難免有些自我中心，我後悔竟然花了許多時間，和生命中重要的人爭論那些不重要的事，我想到我和妻子、朋友及人們的關係，之後，當我回想這件事時，我決定除掉我人生中的負面情緒。我還沒完全做到，但確實好多了。過去兩年我從未和妻子吵架，感覺很好，我不再嘗試爭論對錯，我選擇快樂。
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Imagine a big explosion as you climb through 3,000 ft. Imagine a plane full of smoke. Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack, clack. It sounds scary. Well I had a unique seat that day. I was sitting in 1D. I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants. So I looked at them right away, and they said, "No problem. We probably hit some birds." The pilot had already turned the plane around, and we weren't that far. You could see Manhattan. Two minutes later, three things happened at the same time. The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River. That's usually not the route. (Laughter) He turns off the engines. Now imagine being in a plane with no sound. And then he says three words -- the most unemotional three words I've ever heard. He says, "Brace for impact." I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore. (Laughter) I could see in her eyes, it was terror. Life was over.
Now I want to share with you three things I learned about myself that day. I learned that it all changes in an instant. We have this bucket list, we have these things we want to do in life, and I thought about all the people I wanted to reach out to that I didn't, all the fences I wanted to mend, all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did. As I thought about that later on, I came up with a saying, which is, "I collect bad wines." Because if the wine is ready and the person is there, I'm opening it. I no longer want to postpone anything in life. And that urgency, that purpose, has really changed my life.
The second thing I learned that day -- and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge, which was by not a lot -- I thought about, wow, I really feel one real regret. I've lived a good life. In my own humanity and mistakes, I've tried to get better at everything I tried. But in my humanity, I also allow my ego to get in. And I regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter with people that matter. And I thought about my relationship with my wife, with my friends, with people. And after, as I reflected on that, I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life. It's not perfect, but it's a lot better. I've not had a fight with my wife in two years. It feels great. I no longer try to be right; I choose to be happy.
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我所學到的第三件事是，當你腦中的時鐘開始倒數「15，14，13」，看到水開始湧入，心想，「拜託，爆炸吧！」我不希望這個東西碎成20片，就像紀錄片中看到的那樣。當我們逐漸下沈，我突然感覺到，哇，死亡並不可怕，幾乎就像我們一生一直在為此做準備，但很令人悲傷。我不想就這樣離開，我熱愛我的生命。這個悲傷的主要來源是，我只期待一件事，我只希望能看到孩子長大。一個月以後，我參加女兒的表演，她一年級，沒什麼藝術天份，還看不出來啦！（笑聲）我淚流滿面，像個孩子，這讓我的世界重新有了意義。當我將這兩個事件連結起來時，我意識到，我生命中唯一重要的事，就是成為一個好父親，比任何事都重要，比任何事都重要，我人生中唯一的目標就是做個好父親。
在我活下來的那天，我得到一個奇蹟的禮物。我還得到另一個禮物，像是能在未來看到現在的自己，然後回來改變自己的人生。我鼓勵今天要坐飛機的各位，想像如果你坐的飛機出了同樣的事，最好不要－但想像一下，你會如何改變？有什麼是你想做卻沒做的，因為你覺得你有其它機會做它？你會如何改變你的人際關係以及你的負面表現？最重要的是，你是否會盡力成為一個好父母？
謝謝各位。
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The third thing I learned -- and this is as your mental clock starts going, "15, 14, 13." You can see the water coming. I'm saying, "Please blow up." I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces like you've seen in those documentaries. And as we're coming down, I had a sense of, wow, dying is not scary. It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives. But it was very sad. I didn't want to go; I love my life. And that sadness really framed in one thought, which is, I only wish for one thing. I only wish I could see my kids grow up. About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter -- first-grader, not much artistic talent ... ... yet. (Laughter) And I'm balling, I'm crying, like a little kid. And it made all the sense in the world to me. I realized at that point, by connecting those two dots, that the only thing that matters in my life is being a great dad. Above all, above all, the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad.
I was given the gift of a miracle, of not dying that day. I was given another gift, which was to be able to see into the future and come back and live differently. I challenge you guys that are flying today, imagine the same thing happens on your plane -- and please don't -- but imagine, and how would you change? What would you get done that you're waiting to get done because you think you'll be here forever? How would you change your relationships and the negative energy in them? And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can?
Thank you.
